Since I started talking about what someone said to me on the lines of psychology, I might as well finish what I started, eh. Well, the other thing that someone said that got me thinking was the idea of master of morality or a slave of morality. This idea originated with Friedrich Nietzsche's works, in particular the first essay of On the Genealogy of Morality. After someone said what that someone said, I decided to look into it myself. What I think of the term and what the someone thought, is based on Nietzsche's idea but is not a replica of it. So anyways what I think about the concept of a master of morality versus slave of morality.
For the sake of space, time, simplictity and vibe Il use he even though it applies to everyone
A slave or morality has rules he acknowledges from whatever source. He knows and can tell you the rules of what is right and what is wrong. He doesn't particularly like the rules, he feels hemmed in by them. But, he follows or even advocates them because he is afraid. He is afraid of some form of punishment or of becoming an outcast, being criticised, etc etc. A slave of morality ends up eventually breaking the rules and or becomes a self-righteous hypocrite.
On the other better hand , a master of morality has for himself a set of values and principles which he lives by. They are attained from whatever source but he is convinced of their wisdom and benefit. He does not feel that he is constrained in a straitjacket of rules but he feels protected by a seatbelt or principles.This man ends up in peace with the world and himself and generally happy.
The Conclusion: The ultimate goal is to do what is "right" sincerely. Even so it is better to do what is "wrong" sincerely, than to do what is "right" hypocritically.
I think that whole ideology was addressed in one of my favorite books "The Age of Innocence" by Edith Wharton. Like, one of the characters,Lefferet i think, was a slave of morality. He was an absolute stickler for what was"right" and decorous, but he had mistresses. Newland Archer (hero of the story) was more of a very confused master of morality.
Marilyn Monroe arguably might not be considered a master of morality. But she wasn't a slave of morality either. She also wasn't necessarily the happiest person on earth . So I guess she couldn't be called the best role model. But, if she was still alive, she would be one of the greatest grandmas a girl could have.
My favorite of her quotes, on the subject of life, love and happiness: "This life is what you make it. Not matter what, you're going to mess up sometimes, it's a universal truth. But the good part is you get to decide how you're going to mess it up. Girls will be your friends - they'll act like it anyway. But just remember, some come, some go. The ones that stay with you through everything - they're your true best friends. Don't let go of them. Also remember, sisters make the best friends in the world. As for lovers, well, they'll come and go too. And babe, I hate to say it, most of them - actually pretty much all of them- are going to break your heart, but you can't give up because if you give up, you'll never find your soul mate. You'll never find that half who makes you whole and that goes for everything. Just because you fail once, doesn't mean you're gonna fail at everything. Keep trying, hold on, and always, always, always believe in yourself, because if you don't, then who will, sweetie? So keep your head high, keep your chin up, and most importantly, keep smiling, because life's a beautiful thing and there's so much to smile about." -Marilyn
Last one, had to include it I love it so much."I believe that everything happens for a reason. People change so that you can learn to let go, things go wrong so that you appreciate them when they're right, you believe lies so you eventually learn to trust no one but yourself, and sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together."-Marilyn
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